Perceptions of Infidelity around the world.

Viola Davis’ style and beauty is matched head on with her acting prowess. Who recalls her flawless role in Fences, as Rose, the committed, ever faithful wife who stayed after her husband, Troy, played by Denzel Washington, strayed from his marital bed?

This was a movie but not too far from real life. As long as marriage existed, adultery did. If we are still asking today why adultery still occurs it may suggest the known answers aren’t convincing or conclusive. So, instead of setting out a long list of reasons, we decided to look at how infidelity is perceived by women in different countries and continents.

  1.  Trinidad – “A horn is a horn only if you take it on”. It speaks to the fact that one has no real control over the actions of others and all they can hope to control is their own actions or reactions.  (In local slang a horn mean an affair)
  2. India – A survey has revealed that 76% of Indian women … don’t think that infidelity is a sin or immoral.What’s more, … 68% women said their affair has had a positive effect on their marriage. “In some cases, an affair works as a wake-up call to repair the relationship,” Interestingly, over 80% of those surveyed had arranged marriages. “
  3. Mexico – women are proud to see the rise of female affairs as a form of social rebellion against a chauvinistic culture that has long made room for men to have “two homes,” la casa grande y la casa chica—one for the family, and one for the mistress.
  4. Paris – the topic brings an immediate frisson to a dinner conversation, and … many people have been on both sides of the story.
  5. United States – affairs are primarily described in terms of the damage caused. Generally, there is much concern for the agony suffered by the betrayed. (Points 3 to 5 taken from The Atlantic)
  6. African nations – marriage is an imperative pinnacle in one’s life. Women endure marriages that may be abusive, unsuccessful or strained for the sake of not being labelled a disappointment, due to societal pressures or financial obligation.
All this of course, are broad, general statements and don’t  reflect the complexity of individual cases. Having said that, one thing is certain – marriage is less and less seen as an economic enterprise but one of companionship, based more on love and affection. 
Mocca Mums, to what extent do you think the way you’re raising your girls influences how they view the sanctity of marriage? Tough question but worth a minute or two of thought.