The Power of Support in Motherhood

shutterstock_219593755“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but (easily forget*) the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. – Maya Angelou

It’s flattering when a friend or relative sees your daughter after a few weeks or months and exclaims ‘Oh, she has grown! She’s growing so well!‘ As a mom you may not have noticed how much she’s grown. Child care is a never ending work-in-progress. Days blend into nights and months slip into years. Then there’s that very rare moment when you notice how much she’s actually grown. It’s probably the closest thing to a six figure salary for a mother. You become wealthy with pride.  When someone else confirms how much she has grown your heart literally bursts pride; you even briefly consider early retirement!

Pride because the transition from infancy to toddler, toddler to pre-school, pre-school to tweens … demanded long, lonely sleepless nights. Pride because only you can count the number of times you repeated the same thing over and over again before she got it.  Pride because only you know how worried sick you were during those phases of appetite loss, picky eating, public meltdowns, the bad habits, the colds, the flus, the accidents, the near-misses…

Motherhood can be at times painfully lonely. Only you can measure the weight of your worry. But when you hear those few complimentary words from that friend or the random, kind lady in the supermarket aisle, for a fleeting moment your job seems terribly easy. That’s the moment you tell yourself ‘I would do it all over again!”

MOCCA Mums, wouldn’t we? What were some of your most challenging phases?

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but (easily forget*) the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. – Maya Angelou

*originally – ‘rarely admit