“Ride or Die” – The Epitome or The End of Love?


“All I need in this life of sin, is me and my girlfriend. Down to ride till the very end, it’s me and my boyfriend…” (Jay-Z & Beyoncé – Bonnie & Clyde)

We heard these catchy lyrics 24/7 and sang along innocently. They only take on a deeper meaning when we find our selves in a relationship and there is a crisis. Would you do anything necessary to save your partner and your relationship?  This is “ride or die love” often referred to as a hip-hop manifestation of the Bonnie and Clyde dynamic.

The intentions of a ride or die partner are honourable. When it implies loss of life it is literally the highest expression of love for someone else. What about self-love? Many women (and men) lose their identities in a relationship as they become fixated on doing everything humanly possible to keep their partner content. It could mean being a victim or the perpetrator of abuse, self-destruction or at the commission a crime.

Can we be loyal without being a victim? Can we be committed without being reckless? Can we love and still keep our self-love intact? There is something fascinating about “ride or die” relationships, however they come at a very high price. But doesn’t love mean sacrifice? Where do we draw the line?

Mocca Mums, are we genetically wired as women to  give our all for the sake of love or is this how we have been raised?

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